What are the 5 Love Languages? Definition and Examples
According to author Gary Chapman, there are five love languages. Our “love language” describes how we receive love from others. They:

Words of Affirmation – Say supportive things to your partner

Acts of Service – Doing things that are beneficial to your partner

Receive Gifts – Give your partner a gift that lets them know you’re thinking about them

Quality Time – Spend meaningful time with your partner

Physical Touch – Close and caressed by your partner

Each of us is different in the way we receive love. By learning to give love in a way that is most acceptable to our partner, and by asking a partner to give us love in a way that is acceptable to us, we can create stronger relationships.

Learn more about each love language
Want to know which love language you speak (or speak to)?

Love language 1: Words of affirmation
Ask yourself, how do you feel when you hear your partner offer encouraging, positive, and uplifting words and compliments?

Example: Your partner congratulates you, tells you “good job!”, tells you that you look attractive, or is grateful for something?

If these things make you feel most loved and happiest, words of affirmation may be your primary love language.

Love language 2: Acts of service
Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner helps you with tasks that reduce your burden or reduce your stress?

Example: Your partner does errands for you, runs errands for you, or takes care of something without having to be asked?

If these things make you feel most loved and happiest, acts of service may be your primary love language.

Love language 3: Receive gifts
Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner gives you a thoughtful or extravagant gift?

Example: You get a small gift or treat from your partner letting you know that he or she is thinking about you.

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If these things make you feel most loved and happiest, receiving gifts may be your primary love language.

Love language 4: Quality time
Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner is giving you his or her full attention and you are engaged in a meaningful conversation or activity?

Example: You and your partner have a date night, go on a trip together, or have a deep conversation?

If these things make you feel most loved and happiest, quality time may be your primary love language.

Love language 5: Physical touch
Ask yourself, how do you feel when your partner shows affection through touch?

Example: You and your partner hold hands, kiss, hug, or sit/lie close together.

If these things make you feel most loved and happiest, physical touch may be your primary love language.

How to use love language in your relationship
If we want to build healthy relationships, we must work for them. We have to tell our partner what makes us feel loved and we need to show our partner’s love in the way they want to receive it. That’s how we can use the language of love to improve the quality of our relationships.

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